Sunday, September 13, 2009

Perfect Family Days

What a lovely day we have had, Sundays are family days. It’s that time we set aside to be together to connect on all levels. To share in the past weeks experiences that we each went through and to enjoy each others company. We laugh at each others quizzical memories of the time spent figuring out what the week was about. What journey or plans that we accomplished and how we would not get through it without each other.

Today was no different in one way but so different in others. Today brought about two football games and everyone at two different locations. My daughter Samantha had the first round with one game as I stayed home with one of my favorite pastime…cooking. You see Larry had the idea of an Italian meal that he just had to have. Bolognese, which has many different layers of flavor to bring together to savor... And of course if you have that you need to have fresh bread…

So as everyone was at Sam’s house, I baked the bread, made my peach dream cake, and started the Bolognese. What a lovely day, I had the entire house to myself to do all of this which my guides hummed music the whole time, showed me where in the garden to grab a handful of this and that, and then it was time for the whole gang to convene here with me. By the time the next game was starting I had dinner on the table; mind you I make a vegetarian meal and a meat meal for those lovers. Good humor is what I survive through with lots of laughs at the enormity of how much I made and how everyone had their own taste buds going. Dinner was great, the bread was delish and Dad was in heaven as I served dessert.

Joining family together not just for holidays but for everyday pleasures, is what life is about. To see the expressions on everyone faces as each take their turn at sharing their week and stories. To have those who understand that they are not alone as they struggle with little difficulties that seem to come up when you least expect it. And to know that wherever you are, whatever you do someone loves you for being you.

In a few short months we will be looking at the four year anniversary of my Mothers transitioning. Four years without her bedside us to make us laugh as she talks about the grandchildren, four years as she is not here to shout at my Dad to be quiet, when he talks to loud. Four years of her not here buying disposable cameras to take all of the pictures. Four years that she is not here to see her grandchildren grow to the beautiful adults they have become. And four more years of not having her here to talk to, to share the good, the bad and the indifferent that only a mother can do.

I always tell everyone love your mother, for she may not be here one day and you will miss the times when she was there to lend a helping hand, an ear to listen and to tell you everything will be okay, even though your world is falling apart. Whether your mother is one that gets on your nerves, never gives you a compliment or maybe tells you too many. One who seems not to understand or is always off going here and there. A mother who just seems to be clueless when it comes to many things that makes your heart sings. A mother who thinks you can do no wrong, or constantly tells you to pick up your clothes or brush your teeth. A mother how loves you so much she sees past your faults and makes excuses when others try to single you out to take the heat off of them.

Remember a mother gives her love not as you may want it, but she gives it the way it is needed.

One smile at a time, one glance too many and one advice after another. For a mothers job is never done and one day you too will see where your job is never done. There will always be one more thing to take care of, one more thing to take your time away from that one who needs your ear to listen or a shoulder to lean on.

On just one of those days, take a moment of time and sit down and truly listen. Listen because you want to; listen to what is being said to you. Listen until you cannot listen any longer and give that same smile, that same reasoning behind your words and then you shall see, that we are all here to be together to lean on, to assist, to guide, to share and enjoy each others company.

No matter whom you are, no matter where you are living, no matter what you do. Everyone needs someone to listen for just a few moments to assist in bringing clarity to their world of craziness, someone to whom in those few moments…. they know is really listening who is there for them and only them. Create your family and have your family day. Take the time to give from what you love to do and share it with everyone in that time. Allow yourself to laugh and cry and be honest with yourself when it comes time to say good-bye, for you have just experienced the greatest gift of all…. Your Love!

Bringing together those you love to show them how much you appreciate and adore being with them is a huge gift unto yourself and those around you. We are all in this life together; to give so much and to receive so much… all of this is just the beginning to a perfect Family Day.

Love, laughter & Light, Adele