October is named the National Anti-Bullying Month.
We can all sound off about the bullies that we have had in our lives and to where does that get us? Of course to bring awareness, to stand up beside others to say "yes, I was bullied". And by the way, "look at me now".
I am a success in my life; I took what you did to me and mine and turned it into a positive. I learn and grow each day in knowing I am more than you say and more than you know. I can sleep at night; I can wake up feeling refreshed and ready to start my day. I can look others in the eye with no reserve in expressing how unique I am. I am beautiful in everyway.
I could have taken what you did to me and mine and wallowed into it; I could have absorbed and owned it. And where would that have gotten me? It would have made me exactly what you were trying to make and do to me. Take my power for your own and leave me with none.
So bringing awareness to National Anti-Bullying Month also means to stand up and be counted for being a winner.
Being of a mind that does not allow, does not have time to absorb the negativity that is given for no other reason that to make the bully feel better about themselves. Time and time again the bully likes to project their own inadequacies, their own low self-esteem upon their victim. They like to empower their own self by manipulating and projecting their own issues, crap and negativity onto someone else. We are not the sponge that absorbs for your own egotistical benefit. We are all here for reasons and we are all here to learn from one another. I, just like you, are an individual divinely guide to be here on Mother Earth right now to assist others. If that assistance extends out to allow you to see the hurt, pain and damage you have and do to others, to then allow you to learn and grow to also beautify yourself to be a better person, then being here is a gift you have given back to all of us.
A bully like anyone else has the power to make their life a better place. They have the energy to focus on being a light instead of being dark. They have the manipulation of self to grow, instead of stagnating and wallowing in their own self incriminations. They affect more than one individual with their terror, they affect a whole community. That community feels the sting of their bullying to then disrupt many lives many times over. The echoing affect can be devastating until you realize what it is all about. A bully like anyone else is searching for love. They just need to learn how to love their own self to then be able to start to receive love from others. Moreover to then truly give love to others in return to feel that love deep inside.
A bully who hates upon another, who destroys another in any way shape or form is reflecting their own journey in this life. They cannot reach out to the individual or situation that bullied them for fear of reprisal, so they seek the individual who is strong to tear apart to show their own worth. The age old adage "pick the biggest one and then no one else will ever bother you" is their subconscious motto. As the individual or situation that bullied them was made into a larger than life persona of power they had no control over.
What a bully finds in the long run…if they believed they were alone before, they are alone even more so as they bully. No matter how hard they try or what they do to incapacitate their victim no one turns with open arms to love them. They consciously start to believe all the methods they have used to change the minds and behaviors of others toward their intended victim are real and accurate. They do not understand what is happening, even as they believe they are getting away with their bullying.
So the bully will take it up a notch as we all know "misery loves company" the bully will aggressively seek out others to assist them in their bullying… initiating others to join with them in their quest. It will not matter if the intended victim has ever done harm to them; it is their chance to band together to take out all of their own frustrations for what they believe is a life that is so unfair. You now have a collective gathering of bullies feeling the power in manipulating others as a gain for their own low self-esteem. Their own untruths about their own life. They begin to feel their mission in life, to get back at all the individuals who have never listened to them, who they could not control. All those who did not love them they way they wanted to be loved, and now in this one intended victim they can control the outcome and let others beware of their power. To take back what they lost along the way…power to control their own destiny. So they begin to control and override someone else’s destiny. Problem is, as time goes on they start to see the lengths the lead bully will go to destroy their intended victim. They in turn do not want to be the lead bully’s next target and will stay joined side by side in the bully crusade whether the individual or situation has ever done them any harm before or not. As they now have a chance to succeed where they never have before and they are not alone.
A bully’s life is not one that was hard earned; it was one that they were indoctrinated into. What was hard to learn was the acceptance that they were everything that was given to them. They absorbed it all and made it their own, for they knew no other way. It takes a strong individual to understand their bully, it takes a powerful individual to let go of what they have been through from their bully’s manipulation. And it takes a Beautiful individual to forgive their bully.
This National Month of Anti-Bullying Awareness is a time to educate more than the victim to learn how to change their life and not be a victim, it is to educate the bully in how to change their life and not be the victim to that which they absorbed and claimed ownership of long ago. It is to educate the bully that they are worthy of receiving love just as anyone else is. And it is to allow the bully to feel that love so they began to understand their worth in the world around them.
We can all stand up to bullies in our life with a fight and take back what power we gave them for those moments of time they manipulated the lives of just not one but all the individuals around us. Or we can forgive them, releasing and letting go of the personal imprint they have left upon our subconscious and conscious minds to never forget but to leave behind. And we can continue to live our lives in love wherever we go.
May you have a month of Love for all of humanity knowing bullying is left behind to whence it came…fear of being un-loved…fear of un-worthiness…fear of being left behind….Peace to you!
Love, laughter & Light, Adele Marie
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